If nothing changes, nothing changes

People from all walks of life complain or become discontent with their "lot" in life. They complain that there is too little coffee in their cup. That when driving, the lights turn red as they approach. That the meal they just ate wasn't salty enough, wasn't hot enough, wasn't tasty enough.

They complain that people are too happy, too depressing, too egotistical, too quiet, too loud, too successful or perhaps not successful enough.

Mostly, people who complain, complain about their lives. They get to a point in their lives and realise that this feeling of discontentment has gone on for far too long.

They hate their jobs. Their bosses don't appreciate them. They are out of love with their partners. They have been single for longer than they imagined they would be. You name it, there  is reason to complain and sometimes rightfully so.

Then hopefully, one day they wake up and decide that "if nothing changes, nothing changes". They, themselves, actually need to change.

If you keep doing what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten.

For instance, if you are in a financial pickle, and you don't change your spending habits, re-finance your loans, roll all your credit card debt into one - then you will probably be in the same position in 12 months.

If you dislike your job, but can't push through that state of feeling unhappy and have had no 'luck' with negotiating your work conditions or future, then maybe a new career or direction is the right decision for you.

For those out there that are getting on in the single stakes, and find yourself single or not with a person that you feel is your future partner, then change may be the answer. Don't expect others around you to do the changing for you because it won't work.  For many, it may be that you are single because when you have a relationship you always have a backup plan or people that will feed your ego in the background, so you never put the effort or focus into the relationship that you may have otherwise. Perhaps, your standards are too high and you are yet to realise that "nobody is perfect" and neither are you. Maybe you choose the same type of girl or guy each time and then end up with the same result. Maybe your heart was broken when you were young, so you never take a risk of letting that happen again.

Have you ever wondered why the hottest man in the group always has women chasing him, but only falls for someone who is foreign, or totally the opposite of anyone else.

There is a moral to this story and that is that all people should find their passion, improve their being and keep moving forward in life - not backwards.

Capturing the spirit of your life as it should be and taking time to walk in a direction that is positive to your happiness and well being will change your life. If you find that your life resonates any of these above things or that you are unhappy in any way, think about change. It may mean taking risks, putting your heart, bank balance or life on the line - but in the end, if it gets you closer to happiness or finding your passion then it will all be worth it.

My good friend Tess uses this saying all the time and it is so true. "If nothing changes, nothing changes".

Does this saying apply to your life?