Why good manners is a deal breaker
I am a stickler for good manners. Growing up in the country, you won't find too many men or women that don't have good basic manners.
Men open the door for women, walk on the outside when walking a woman down the street, sit down at the table and eat only when the host and every other person has been seated, and mostly, without a pocket full of cash, they are the first to invite someone over for dinner or to try their fresh tomatoes that they planted early on in the season. It's these good country manners and hospitality that reminds us that it isn't too hard to be kind and display good manners.
There really is a lot to be learnt from country folk.
Men open the door for women, walk on the outside when walking a woman down the street, sit down at the table and eat only when the host and every other person has been seated, and mostly, without a pocket full of cash, they are the first to invite someone over for dinner or to try their fresh tomatoes that they planted early on in the season. It's these good country manners and hospitality that reminds us that it isn't too hard to be kind and display good manners.
There really is a lot to be learnt from country folk.
It's a constant source of frustration for me, that people are bad mannered. I really don't care what walk of life you came from, or what your sense of entitlement is, good manners are the basics in life and it is just a sign of respect for the people that are around you.
While I don't expect all people to be at the level of a "Swiss Finishing School", good manners is a sign that people are considerate of the those around, respect that they are in company and whether they like the person or not, know that good manners is more about them then the people who they surround themsleves with.
My basics: I would be mortified if my brother's didn't open the door for their wives or friends, or didn't walk a lady to a taxi. It is these simple things that are confusing men and women today as to what is right and what is wrong.
How can you tell if you should or shouldn't open the door? The right answer is you should. Full stop. No question. If the person is rude enough to ask you not to, then step away, and politely apologize, to ensure that you don't cause a drama.
Here is a great article on 13 Good and Bad Manners from around the world. Check it out and let me know what you think http://people.howstuffworks.com/13-examples-of-good-and-bad-manners-around-the-world.htm
While I don't expect all people to be at the level of a "Swiss Finishing School", good manners is a sign that people are considerate of the those around, respect that they are in company and whether they like the person or not, know that good manners is more about them then the people who they surround themsleves with.
My basics: I would be mortified if my brother's didn't open the door for their wives or friends, or didn't walk a lady to a taxi. It is these simple things that are confusing men and women today as to what is right and what is wrong.
How can you tell if you should or shouldn't open the door? The right answer is you should. Full stop. No question. If the person is rude enough to ask you not to, then step away, and politely apologize, to ensure that you don't cause a drama.
Here is a great article on 13 Good and Bad Manners from around the world. Check it out and let me know what you think http://people.howstuffworks.com/13-examples-of-good-and-bad-manners-around-the-world.htm
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07 May 2014I dugg some of you post as I thought they were very beneficial very helpful
ReplyGianni Catalano
01 Apr 2014I can't agree more. Manners are everything. Good manners lead to a great first impression. Which can be very important when deciding who to do business with.
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