What Jennifer Lopez can teach us all
I don't dislike her, but I feel that she is a bit too stereotypical "famous" for my liking and it has taken away from the talents that she has.
Like all good stories, Jennifer's is a rags to riches tale. In fact, she grew up in the Bronx and now is as far from the Bronx as any one person could be.
I bought her book because it was sitting on the shelf and I had all the other books that I could possibly want to purchase at the airport newsagency already on my shelf.
I picked it up reluctantly, but was pleasantly surprised as I flicked through page after page.
What I learned:
- The book is a bit more "real" than we get to see in her very polished image
- She has fears like the rest of us
- She falls in love (too easily), gets her heartbroken like any other woman, and gets back on her bike without blinking an eyelid
- Jennifer owns her story: the good, the bad and the ugly
- She plays a sickly sweet woman - and quite possibly, she mostly is.
- The moments that are most memorable to her include her children
- Holding strong is her defense mechanism and it has kept her in good stead
- Jennifer is super ambitious and I am sure she would stomp on anyone that got in her way. She didn't get to where she is today by being a shrinking voilet.
- She is as insecure as the rest of us, and possibly more... which in some way is endearing.
- Fame and fortune is above all else
- Having Marc play with her on stage when they had broken up was a publicity stunt and about her career - nothing more.
- Jennifer is a narcissist - for sure
- You will live. You will love. You will dance again...
- In the end, the truth finds a way to surface, even if you don't want it to.
- Listen to yourself; listen to your gut. Because only you knw what's right for you."
- As an artist, you should be in competition with only one person - yourself.
- In the same way negative influences can bring you down, having positive people around can help lift you up.
- Passion is a pendulum that swings both ways. As beautiful as it can be, it can also get intense.
- Your friends mourn your losses with you, because they experience them too. The truth is, no matter how lonely you might feel, you're never going through anything alone.
- I wake up in bed alone. The silence in my room reminds me of the emptiness in my heard. I failed at love - again. Expect this time, it wasn't just me. I am haunted by the inescapable thought that I let down my beautiful babies. Max and Emme. I wanted so badly for things to have turned out differently. As lonely as this bed feels, I can't bring myself to get out of it.
- The truth about reality TV is that you can't hide who you are.
- Never believe your own bullshit. If you wanted to be in the newspaper everyday, hire a publicist. They can make anyone famous.
- Being famous or being recognized is not important, and if it is, you will keep making the same mistakes.
- Everybody is the same: we all want to be loved.
- Everybody has a story that we all can learn from.
- Never let your insecurities or fears shape you.